I’m back, Mavericks! I’ve been away for entirely too long – way longer than I planned. The year 2017 was a wild ride that literally ended in flames (a story for another day), but I am ready to emerge from the ashes. I’ve never been big on resolutions, but I do make good on my promises.
Here are seven improvements I’m promising myself in 2018:
- Stop apologizing so darn much. “I’m sorry for the delay.” “I’m sorry I can’t be there or do that.” I’m all for a well-placed apology, but overdoing it robs us of the right to be human. Life happens; I’m one person, and I can’t be all things to all people. Everyone, including me, will be okay. And quite frankly, sometimes, I don’t mean it. In the famous words of Nene Leakes, “I said what I said!” I’m gonna let myself off the hook.
- Give myself permission to rest. Part of the reason I’m so tired all the time is that I don’t know how to rest. I realized recently that even when my body isn’t busy, my mind is. When I’m not physically working, I’m still working, and I feel guilty if I’m not. I find myself looking at my not-so-free time and feeling so bad if every waking moment is not filled with some accomplishment. But guess what? When I wear myself thin trying to get everything done, I end up too tired to do anything I set forth to do. That’s the real tragedy. I’m going to stop looking at relaxation as time wasted not accomplishing anything. The fruit of rest is renewal. I’ll make self-care a priority, even if it means scheduling it.
- Get (more) organized. I have been list and logistic obsessed since I was old enough to hold a pen. I’m the kind of person that packs for a vacation from a spreadsheet and plans wardrobe down to the drawers. I feel much better when I have a place or system for everything. I’ve always been aware of all the digital advancements in organizations but I never stick with them. Enter the Happy Planner! I’m trying a disc-bound planner for the first time and I think it’ll perfectly appeal to the creative and organizational sides of me. I have a feeling the satisfaction of touching paper and scratching things off a list will motivate me to keep it up.
- Invest more energy in the things that make me smile. Like this blog!! Doing things you don’t love is a sho nuff dream-killer. It’s not 100% avoidable, and it may not have an immediate solution, but dad-blame-it, I’m reversing the curse, one day at a time. I got a taste of it last year, as I got to sing more, start this blog, travel, and spend more time with friends and loved ones. I found that every moment I spent feeding my happiness gave me the energy to withstand those life-sucking tasks that are a necessity right now. And it gave hope that the latter tasks are temporary. When you taste what is good, it inspires you to chase it more intentionally.
- Change my relationship with food. For my health and my wealth. My life literally revolves around food, and I am determined not to be slave to it anymore. In 2018, may my wallet get fatter and my stomach get flatter.
- Change my relationship with money. As I have alluded to previously, my life experiences have caused me to have a precarious relationship with money. Some days I’m way too fiscally conservative and other days I’m regretfully loose and eating it all (see #5).
- Change my relationship with God. John 15:15 tells me I am a friend of God. John 1:12 says I’m a child of God. Ephesians 2:10 says that I am God’s workmanship. The Word is littered with affirmations of who I am in Christ Jesus, yet I have walked as if I don’t know or I am less than. It’s pretty universal, no matter what beliefs we ascribe to that how we behave and what we achieve is often a reflection of how we see ourselves. I ask myself,” How much more effective would I be if I acted like I was wonderfully made?” Or if I believed like I was beloved and highly favored, with access to immeasurable power? For me, it starts with making my relationship with God a priority and practicing greater faith.
We all know that change is inevitable, but anyone who says it is is easy is a bold-faced lie. It certainly takes faith and fortitude to withstand the challenges of life, but I am poised to make this year the best year ever. For real, for real this time.
What does your comeback look like? Drop the mic in the comments below.